You don't need fixing. You need the right mirror.
You're not a broken project. Books, songs and relationship work for the ones who've been trying so hard. Relationship & Identity Coach · Author · Songwriter. Grace-based. Real life.
Heart wisdom
Who are you underneath what you learned to be?
Books, songs and relationship work all ask that same question. Start wherever you're curious.
- The God Speaks seriesGod Speaks Wealth31 days of identity, not budgeting tips. The cover says 30 days. Abundance always gives more: there are 31, one for every day of the month. Scripture, then a short reflection in God's voice. Provision isn't a reward. You come from abundance.
- MusicSophia OakleyGrace-based songs about God, identity, anger, wonder and being human. Three albums so far.
- RelationshipsFor love that keeps getting stuck in the same place.How the method works
- QuizzesSee what you've been carrying, and what's happening between you.Take a quiz
- BlogIdentity, relationships, faith, money and family life.Read the blog
Not a better duck.
The Ugly Duckling spent years trying to improve the waddle. Ugly was never what he was. It was what he had been adapting toward.
That is the argument of the work: you do not need a new personality. You need a truer mirror.
Relationships
"He's a good man. But I feel resentful, and I don't want to."
You've worked on your communication. Your anxiety. Your attitude. You've prayed about it and counted your blessings. And you're still the one who notices, remembers, plans and carries. Then you feel guilty for minding.
Feeling this doesn't make you a bad wife, and it doesn't make him a bad husband. Something between you deserves to be understood.
That's what the Relationship Realignment Method is for.
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