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If you'd like to start privately, in your own time: the Toolbox. If you want support and the relief of not being the only one: Love, in Real Life. If you want the method taught to you one-on-one: Relationship Realignment 1:1. If old wounds run deep or the same patterns keep winning: the 12-week work. Still not sure? Book one session, take a quiz, or write to me and I'll tell you honestly what I'd suggest.

I'm a good fit if you're willing to look at your own part, not only your partner's. I'm not the right fit if you want a way to change someone else without looking at yourself, or if you're afraid for your safety at home.

Yes. You don't need two willing people to start understanding your part of a pattern, what isn't your part, and what you can change from your side.

You don't need to decide that before you come. The work isn't designed to convince you to stay or to leave. It helps you see clearly what's happening, what can change, and what you actually want.

This is coaching. I trained and practised as a counsellor for many years, and that training shapes how I work, but what I offer now is coaching: focused on understanding your patterns and changing what happens next. If you need therapy, for example a mental health condition or a crisis, I'll tell you and help you find the right support.

I'm multidisciplinary. I'm trained in the Gottman Method, BWRT, Discernment Counselling and Terry Real's relational work, and I don't follow one school. I start with identity: who you learned to be in love, long before this relationship. And when I work with couples, both people are known equally. Nobody arrives as the problem.

Thirteen years of private practice with individuals and couples. I often see the pattern you can't see from inside it, and I help partners translate each other's wounds so both feel heard. And faith is welcome here without shame, if it's part of your life.

No. Domestic abuse needs specialised, local support where safety can be assessed. If you're being hurt, nothing you did makes violence something you deserved. If you're the person doing the hurting, please seek specialised help too.

Faith is part of how I understand people, identity and grace, but you don't have to perform faith here. You may be deeply Christian, unsure what you believe, angry with God, hurt by church, or simply looking for practical relationship help. You don't need to give me the "right" answer.

No. Faith comes into the work only as much as you want it to.

No, I wouldn't describe myself that way, though both Christianity and New Age spirituality are broad terms that mean very different things to different people. My foundation is Jesus, and the nature of God revealed through Him. My lens is grace, through the Mirror Bible's view of identity and union. I'm interested in how our beliefs, words, relationships and inner world shape our lives, but I approach them from that foundation. I also carry a lot of compassion for people who have been hurt by religion. So this is a space where you don't have to perform, agree with everything or have all the answers to belong. If you need to call God the Universe for now, until you're ready to explore the possibility that the Universe is His artwork rather than His being, that's okay too. I'm not here to throw any belief system under the bus. I'm here to help you live from who you already are, rather than striving to become someone worthy of love.

Only if you'd like to. In the group, we pray together for those who want to. In private work, it's your choice.

No. Most of my clients are women, but I work with men and couples too, often husbands who are trying hard to do the right thing.

Yes. I work with individuals and couples regardless of gender, race, religion or sexual orientation.

No, but I support parents with parenting.

Yes. Most of my work is online, with clients in the US, the UK and beyond. South Africans can ask about rand pricing.

What you share with me, and the fact that you work with me, is treated privately and with care. If your position makes privacy complicated, tell me what you need me to be mindful of.