Eight weeks · Private

Relationship Realignment: 1:1

"We have communication issues" doesn't tell us enough. Because communication is often where the problem shows up. Not necessarily where it starts.

At a glance

8 weekly private 60-minute sessions
Structured: one pillar each week, applied to your relationship
Relationship Realignment Journal
Weekly Telegram check-in for individuals only
Couples get the journal, and no Telegram support
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$1,997 on your own · $2,997 as a couple
Payment plans available

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Of course we work on how you communicate. But I also want to know what happens underneath the conversation. What happens when one of you feels criticised. When one needs an answer and the other needs space. When a reasonable request somehow lands as I'm failing you again. When you're talking about what happened on Tuesday but underneath it you're asking: Do I matter to you? Can I trust you? Do you see how much I'm carrying? Is it safe to tell you what I really feel? The words matter. So does everything each of you brings to them. Your history. Your nervous system. Your expectations. The meaning you make. The ways you learned to protect yourself long before you met each other. Communication is often the symptom we can hear. Relationship Realignment works with the communication — and what's happening underneath it.

Because the same argument is rarely the same argument.

It might look like money. Parenting. Sex. Your phone. Their family. Who does more. Something somebody forgot. A tone nobody else would have noticed. But somehow you keep arriving somewhere familiar. One feels unheard. One feels criticised. One reaches. One pulls away. One explains. One defends. Sometimes you swap roles completely. And eventually you're no longer talking about what happened. You're inside the pattern that happens between you. That's what we're interested in changing.

Eight weeks. Your relationship.

The Pattern Beneath the Problem

Attachment · nervous system · triggers

See the cycle underneath the recurring problem.

What happens. What you make it mean. What happens inside you. What you do next.

The Communication Rebuild

Less assuming. More understanding.

Say what you mean. Hear what was meant. Notice what happens in between.

The Art of Conflict

Disagree without becoming enemies.

Conflict isn't necessarily the problem. What happens to each of you inside it can be.

When Emotion Takes Over

Anger · shame · emotional intelligence

What happens to everything you know when emotion gets there first?

We work with what you're feeling, what sits underneath it and the space between feeling and reaction.

Boundaries Without Walls

Boundaries · expectations · resentment

The yes that should have been a no. The need you hoped they'd notice. The thing you said was fine. The responsibility you quietly took on and now resent carrying. Clearer boundaries. Less scorekeeping. More honest connection.

The Art of Repair

Responsibility · apology · forgiveness

How do you come back after hurt?

How do you own impact without collapsing into shame? Apologise without explaining the apology away? Forgive without pretending? And understand why forgiveness, reconciliation and trust aren't the same thing?

Safe Enough to Be Close

Capacity · trust · vulnerability · intimacy

Trust grows through repeated experiences of safety.

We work with emotional and physical intimacy, vulnerability and the capacity to remain present with each other. And with praying together. Not as another thing good Christian couples are supposed to do. As another way of becoming known — and of bringing something to God together before you've completely solved it between yourselves.

Choose Again

Identity · values · vows · direction

Who are you choosing to become now?

What do you want your relationship to practise? What do you want to leave behind? Couples revisit their vows and the promises they want to live from in this season. We map what comes next and bring those choices into prayer.

Why 1:1?

Relationship Realignment can happen in two very different rooms. There is something beautiful about the Group. Even very private people often discover the relief of hearing somebody else describe something they thought belonged only to their relationship. Oh. We do that too. There is perspective in that. Normalising. Community. And the unexpected intimacy of doing honest work alongside people doing their own. 1:1 offers something different. The whole room belongs to you. We can spend more time where your relationship needs it. Bring this week's argument into the work. Move quickly through something you've already understood. Slow down when we find the thing underneath the thing. Work individually when something personal is feeding the relationship pattern. The method gives us a map, and we follow it: one pillar each week, applied to what's actually happening in your relationship. If something deeper needs healing, we'll talk about the 12-week work.

You can come on your own.

$1,997

Sometimes only one person is ready to do the work. That's enough to begin. We work with what happens in you and what you bring into the relationship. Your triggers. Your assumptions. Your boundaries. Your communication. Your resentment. Your needs. Your ways of protecting yourself. Not because the relationship is all your responsibility. It isn't. But your part is the part you have the most power to change.

Begin on your own

Or come together.

$2,997 per couple

You both attend all eight private sessions. Nobody arrives as the problem. We slow down what happens between you enough to see it. This is what happened. This is what I experienced. This is what it touched in me. This is how I protected myself. This is what happened between us next. Once the pattern becomes visible, both of you have somewhere different to stand. There isn't a villain in the room. There is a pattern in the room.

Begin together

We don't only talk about it.

Insight matters. But understanding beautifully why you do something and continuing to do exactly the same thing isn't the goal. Depending on what emerges, our work may include nervous-system regulation, body-based emotional intelligence, parts work and other integrative approaches alongside practical relationship tools. We work with what you understand intellectually. What you feel. What your body does before your mind catches up. What you believe. And what happens when you try something different in your actual relationship. Insight helps us see the pattern. Integration helps us change it.

Between sessions

We meet privately for 60 minutes each week for eight weeks. You receive the Relationship Realignment Journal to take the work deeper between sessions. If you come on your own, you have a weekly Telegram check-in. If we meet on Tuesday, you can leave questions, observations and this happened and now I see what we were talking about moments during the week. I check and respond on Fridays. Couples do not have Telegram support. Enough contact for the work to meet real life without turning your relationship into a full-time project.

Christian at the root.

Not psychology on one side and faith on the other. Both belong in the room. Grace and truth. Responsibility and forgiveness. Boundaries and love. Repair. Identity. What it means to know and be known. And the question underneath so much of this work: Who am I becoming in the way I love?

Group or 1:1?

Choose Relationship Realignment: Group if the idea of learning alongside others appeals to you — including the reassurance of discovering that many of the things we quietly struggle with in relationships are far more human than we realise. Choose Relationship Realignment: 1:1 if you want the same foundational work with the time and space shaped specifically around you or your relationship. One gives you shared recognition and community. The other gives you greater personalisation and space. Neither is a lesser version of the work. They're simply different ways to do it.

Eight weeks to see the pattern sooner. Understand what's happening underneath it. Say what actually needs saying. Repair what needs repairing. And become more intentional about the relationship you're creating between you.

8 weekly private 60-minute sessions
Relationship Realignment Journal
Friday Telegram check-in for individuals only. Couples get the journal, and no Telegram support.

Relationship Realignment: 1:1

Individual — $1,997 Couple — $2,997 Payment plans are available. If you're in South Africa and would prefer local pricing or payment in rands, contact me.

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